Today I've got a list that probably out-lists any list I've ever had. And it's not just that I'm whiny. I'm sort of past whiny at the moment. I'm empty. Tired. Burnt-out. Used up. Depleted. Of course, I've already been to the accountant in somewhat of a monsoon, got my parents out the door, have 5 loads of laundry to do, 3 people to pack up for Florida tomorrow, kids to feed, force into showers, mediate between, invoices to send . . . it's not a down day in any way.
I'll start with the fact that Iz and Jack, who yesterday had a complete and total love-fest, are now back to arguing, sniping, lobbing boiling oil at each other. In the past 15 minutes we've all been in tears, accusations circling the room. Jack told me if only I'd concentrate on being a good parent as much as I do on being an author, perhaps I'd do a better job. It's the honest opinion of a soon to be 9 year old. And it's like being stabbed with a burning hot knife. In my heart I don't feel like I'm doing anything particularly well.
Let's start my list there. Last night, as we were falling asleep, Jon berated me for not making sure we saw the seder through until the very end. Of course, there were 5 adults besides me, none of them making a move to crack the hagadah back open, but, in the end, it was my fault. The melting kids today? Inevitable. But I don't have the patience or even desire to smooth things out for them. I'm past caring at the moment.
I worked my butt off for days getting ready for Passover and half the guests didn't show. There is so much food leftover it's almost scary. Plus, some of the no-shows were not feeling well and there's that to deal with too. Some sort term, some long term. Sigh.
In the past 3 weeks? I've been on national TV twice, been interviewed 4 times, did my first college lecture. I've had extreme ups and downs with people associated with FLOW.
I've moved towards taking over (with someone else) a middle school PTA. Next month its official. There have been countless emails, phone calls, meetings to move it forward.
I chaired a 6th grade dance. Pulled together an auction project for Jack's 3rd grade class. Single parented parent teacher conferences. Taxes. Put together a new computer system while trouble shooting one that didn't work anymore.
Jon was away for 5 days so I was completely on my own for everything. Baseball practice, birthday parties, playdates, afterschool, making school lunches, getting everyone where they needed to be on time (not that I already don't handle most of that).
There were a couple of design jobs (thank god) to the mix. My parents arrived to sleep in the living room for the past 3 nights. And the seder to shop, plan, clean and cook for with the inevitable endless clean up that's not done yet.
I hurt my wrist so practicing yoga at this point is painful. I have to take a break for awhile, which both mentally and physically is really hard for me. I pulled something in the middle of my back that sometimes completely freezes me and I can't move. I've been fighting a sinus infection for weeks. And the arthritis that I've had for awhile in the joint of one finger is now in several places on both hands.
I'm worried about my mom, my brother, my father, my son. Some people I love dearly are struggling right now and there's nothing I can do to help.
I'm heading to Florida tomorrow and at the very last moment it turns out Jon can't go, so I'm single parenting for another 5 nights, after I just finished 4.
I want off this ride. At least for a little while.
I want to process all I've been going through. The absolute highs. The soul-wrenching lows. The moments of bliss. The depths of despair. I want to heal, to rest, to relax, to shut down.
But Jack needs lunch and Iz can't find anything to eat.